After you bury your husband, for a long long time, maybe longer, you will feel like crap. But later than sooner, you will be okay. You will get through. Here are 7 essential tips to guide you:

1. Comb your hair, brush your teeth, and for goodness sakes, take out the trash. If there are two things that will make you feel worse, it is a bad hair day and a parade of creepy crawly things marching across your kitchen floor.

Have you been taught to “keep a stiff upper lip” at all times and keep your emotions to yourself? Or were you admonished as a child when you began to cry with this overzealous parental statement: “You want something to cry about; I’ll give you something to cry about?”

Most of us have been taught that crying is a sign of weakness. Furthermore, if you are going to “break down” (what a terrible demoralizing statement) we are directed to do it in privacy, never in public.

Linking objects are literally any type of physical object or an image that connects a mourner in a comforting way with a deceased loved one. They can also be used to create a ritual of remembrance or continuity as well as a reminder of a needed behavior when establishing new routines.

The use of linking objects is not widely recommended because many support persons falsely believe they tend to encourage a pathological holding on to the deceased while neglecting to face the task of reinvesting in life. In reality, linking objects can be pivotal motivating factors in accepting the death of a loved one and beginning the new life without the physical presence of the beloved.

Hello my friends,

We need to talk about life without those we love! We all lose someone we love. We never know when, why, or the reasons for it, if there is one. We need to somehow move forward as hard as it is. I know how hard it is. I have lost more than my share. I still have a hard time, but I know I am keeping them alive as long as I am alive! There is no understanding of why we lose the ones we love. I wish there was a reason, take the jerks not the ones that have done so much for all of us. You know who those are. Our family, the Military, the heroes who stand up to those who want to hurt others. I wish I had an answer “Why”, I don’t know why. We have to search inside of us to bring the strength needed to move forward. This is the hardest thing you will go through. There are no books, no studies, that you can do to understand.

There are many moods and varied emotions on Memorial Day. This Memorial Day will be a time when these moods and emotions will range from pride to sorrow, from tribute to regret. But there are two words that bears the message of memorial day - grief and hope.
There will be much grief as we remember those who have died fighting in our nation’s armed forces.. There will be grief as we remember why they died.

Death is a natural occurrence, a passageway. When we can accept human death as another cycle of life, we can enjoy our daily lives more because we won’t be in fear. Then we can also gracefully release others who are dying.

I often hear people say that they lost their mother, father, or another person in their lives. I can feel their pain when they express the transition in that way. I have compassion for their feelings. To assist them to feel better, I suggest that they just state what happened. For example, “My mother passed away last month.” I also encourage them to close their eyes and speak to them. They are often pleased and comforted when they receive an intuitive response.

It’s a dark and stormy night, November 11, 2000. The Saw Mill River Parkway is an asp of a road that snakes to a narrow hollow in front of Reader’s Digest. A speeding motorist cuts sharp right, forcing a driver to lose control of his car. The 25-year young driver isn’t wearing a seat belt. And as the motorist disappears into the shadows, the Pontiac flips and rolls like a dime. Its driver rockets out a side window, 40’ through the air, into a tree.