I am a firm believer that everyone needs to have a sense of humor about themselves. I am the first to admit that (at times) I take life WAY too seriously, and I think that’s probably true about many people. My kids need me, my mother needs me, my sister, my friends, my bills, my personal development, my housework, my personal hygiene, my cat, the kids’ schoolwork, the plants…admit it, some days it gets to be overwhelming and you don’t know how much more you can handle.

Today is exactly two years since I stuck a needle in my arm…or used any other mind or mood altering substance.

Two years to the date in which my entire world was flipped, swiveled and swerved to steer me in a new direction, leading to the journey upon the path where I would finally begin learning how to live my life.

Scattered above were big, white puffs of cotton-candy-clouds parading across the bright, blue of the mid-morning sky. Streams of sunlight danced down from above, breaking into shafts of light that broke through the clouds setting their edges aglow. I remember this day so clearly not because of it’s extraordinary beauty but because….

It was the last day I used…September 3, 2005.

“You have the right to live in fullness and to seek all the blessings of life.”

What would you do if you knew beyond a doubt that you had an inalienable right to thrive in life, and that your job was to give clear instructions to the universe on what thriving means to you. Wouldn’t that get you fired up with excitement, exuberance and passion for life?

As a psychotherapist, I know a lot about stories. I listen to stories all day long, and I am constantly fascinated, opened, and touched by the stories I hear.

I also love to read memoirs. I’m not talking about lurid tell-alls that capture voyeuristic interest. I’m talking about stories where the author is making sense of pain or difficulty by telling her story from the heart. I like having my heart broken by stories like that. I know, I know–most people don’t enjoy having their heart ripped open on a daily basis. I’m weird that way. But give me a chance to tell you why I enjoy this particular kind of pain.

Bi-location is the ability of the consciousness to be in different locations at the same time. This ability is trained by guiding the consciousness to understand that location is simply an illusion. It is this principle that allows healers to shift disease into pure health instantly or soul projectors to travel through the planes of the Astral at will. The ’secret’ to making this process work in the physical world is to train the consciousness in the physical plane - it is that simple.

“If I could only figure this out, I think I could find
happiness.” That was the comment a close friend made during
a recent conversation. This is not the first time, nor will
it be the last that I hear this statement.

Many people believe that finding happiness is based on
finding something else they want. In my experience as a
personal coach, no one has ever found long term happiness
by achieving another goal. Ultimately, to find happiness is
to look within.

In other words, happiness is an inside job. The key to
finding happiness is to understand that happiness is a
choice and not the result. If happiness can be found as the
result of an acquisition, meeting a goal, or having
anything, then a person’s happiness will always be subject
to something else.

We live in a society of complaint. Each of us has our own “victim” story that we hold dear, our deep reservoir of excuses of why life is not working out as planned and who or what is to blame. Without a doubt each of us have been “victims” in certain experiences or events, but no longer are we in those spaces today, yet continually we identify ourselves as “victims” over and over. What keeps us in a victim state? An inability to forgive.

Fear is nervousness itself and the very thing you are afraid of you will attract. From early childhood we are trained not to fear things and psychological studies tell us that most pains in the body would be greatly lessened and disappear altogether if a child was brought up fearlessly. But because of past incarnations you will see some very fearful children who have brought with them these fear complexes from their subconscious mind even though these children are not children but old souls of countless past lives. Although these children are all given a fresh start in every new incarnation, they still bring with them some unwanted excess baggage of attachments and habits very well covered up and with latent phobias from the past they can become chronically terrified for no apparent reason. Some thought or word can trigger this dread reaction that is deeply buried within the subconscious mind. If you are a parent never instill fear in your children. Never use scary stories as threats to correct the behavior of your child because you can impair their outlook on life and create such nervousness as to paralyze their everyday progress. You can embed a sense of caution instead of fear. Teach your children and yourself to fear fear.